“It always seems impossible until it done” – Nelson Mandela

 Tuesday April 6 2019 my son nonchalantly says “Oh mom I forgot to tell you Kia knows where you we live.” Kia is my son’s father’s 40-year-old girlfriend. Kia and my son’s father Jhavier have been dating off and on since about 2016. She was in the car the day Jhavier punched me in the face and attempted to hit my son and I with a car. She knowingly admits that Jhavier has anger problems, and issues respecting women, but she stays with him. Kia works for the Severna Park post office in Maryland, 


“What do you mean Kia knows where I live?” I asked.


“My daddy and Kia drove me here and told me to show them where I lived” my son said again nonchalantly. 


“Josh you know what I’ve been through with your father. Why would you show him where I lived” I said clearly upset with my son?


“Why would you do that, and why are you just telling me this” I asked again frustrated. 


“I’m sorry mom” my son said tears forming in his little four-year-old eyes. 


I stopped yelling and realized that my son was only 4 years old. The smartest four-year-old child probably wouldn’t have realized that they were being manipulated in that situation.  It’s unbelievable to think that two adults would put a child in that situation. I felt bad for yelling and getting upset with my son. I felt horrible and couldn’t imagine who would use their child like that. 


“Why is this my life” I thought to myself. 


I dropped my son off at daycare after apologizing to him. I wasn’t upset with my son. I received a call from my son’s daycare provider later in that day advising me that my son told her the same thing he told me earlier. She advised me that my son told her that his father and his father’s girlfriend drove him around and had our son show them where I lived. She advised me that I shouldn’t get upset with my son because he didn’t know and was pressured by his father. She advised me that if I get upset every time my son tells me something, he won’t tell me anything. 


When I got to work that day, I called the House of Ruth Domestic Violence legal clinic and asked them to help me. I was advised by the House of Ruth that they didn’t think I had enough evidence to get a restraining order. However, the House of Ruth advised me to contact Jhavier’s probation officer and let the probation officer know about the situation. I was advised by the House of Ruth to tell Jhavier’s probation officer that Jhaiver has previously called me 22 times and claimed to be suicidal.   I was also advised to let Jhaiver’s probation officer know that Jhavier has previously advised me that he has a gun and would shoot me before he went back to jail. 

April 19 2019 I called Jhaiver’s probation officer and I forwarded all my evidence. She advised me that she would forward the evidence of phone calls, and threats to the judge handling Jhavier’s probation and follow up with me. As of today 4/24/19 I have not heard back from Jhaver’s probation officer, I follow up with her daily. 


I also have written the state’s attorney office and let them know what is going on with my case. I let the state’s attorney’s office know that I have been dealing with this issue for almost 5 years. I told the states attorney that I am in fear of my life. Jhavier has proven to be a loose cannon and now that he knows where I reside, I am scared. I also wrote to Maryland’s Governor Larry Hogan’s office and asked for help.


I reached out to the Severna Park’s post office and advised them that Kia has previously rode pass my parent’s house in her post office van. I advised the post office that Kia has stopped my parents at a gas station while in the post office van and proceeded to try and discuss this case with my parent’s. I told the post office that Kia is using her job at the post office to harass my family on Jhaver’s behalf.  


I spoke with Karen (a supervisor) at the post office who advised Kia is on a rural route and should not be around my parent’s house. Karen advised me that the “post master” advised Kia not to go around my parent’s house, and not to speak to my parent’s if she sees them in public while at work. As you can imagine I was very unhappy with the post office’s response to this matter. I can’t understand why a federal worker didn’t already know not to harass citizens while on duty. I have filed a complaint against the Severna Park post office. How can I or anyone feel safe with postal workers that harass citizens while on duty? My parent’s also have a post office box and don’t even get mail delivered to their home. Kia looked my parent’s address up while on the job. I’m so confused as to why a federal employee needs to be told not to share citizens information. I can’t imagine the post office doesn’t have rules and regulations about stuff like this. 


Since starting this blog almost three months ago I have detailed my experience with domestic violence and my struggle to receive justice. I keep getting comments from my readers that say, “I hope all is well now”, or “I hope you and your son are fine now”. Reading those comments sometimes I get sad because I’m still fighting for justice and not much has changed. I want to do a post and share that my fight for justice and stronger domestic violence laws in Maryland has not been in vain. I want to post that I have been victorious, and I’m finally at peace. However today is not the day, and this is not the post. However, keep reading because I am hopeful that I will prevail in my fight.


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30 thoughts on “USPS

  1. I am so sorry you are going through this. You are in my thoughts for sure.

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  2. Angelina Anzalone April 25, 2019 — 12:10 am

    It is an ongoing battle for justice, but just know you are so strong for fighting! As someone who has previously dealt with domestic abuse I can relate. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to reach out. ♥️

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  3. ughhhh!!! All i can say is that you’re doing all the right things. You called the authorities, explained the situation to your son and took all the necessary precautions. Keep on fighting.

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  4. You are always in my thoughts and I’m so sorry you’re going through this.. Please keep us updated.

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    1. Thank you! And I will try to keep you updated. 💚


  5. I’m so sad and angry for you. That you’re not being heard or taken seriously by the very people who are supposed to do just that. Justice can be such an uphill battle for women, *especially* for black women. Hoping you, your son, and your parents remain safe & find a legal remedy to this! ♥️♥️♥️

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    1. Thank you! I really appreciate your words and you understanding my fight! It’s hard and draining but I’m going to keep fighting! 💚

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  6. Keeping you in my thoughts as well! There will be good that comes out of these difficult years…just keep doing the best you can! Sending love!

    -Madi xo |

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  7. Keep fighting, never give up. And go with your gut! If you ever feel uneasy at home get out of there ASAP! I almost want to advise you to move but that’s a whole huge ordeal in itself! I pray you find peace, God is always watching over you.

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    1. I plan to move next year out of state when my lease is up! Thank you! 💚


  8. I’m sorry to hear you are going through such a difficult time. I hope things we’ll get better for you.

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  9. Sending all my love! I am sure you will end victorious this fight. Keep strong!

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  10. successunscrambled April 25, 2019 — 11:39 am

    Oh dear, I am so sorry that this is still happening in your life. I hope that it could be resolved and you can just get on with a new life for you and your son.

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  11. It’s horrible what you are going through, and mostly that the people who are supposed to protect you, are not. Maybe you should try hiring a good lawyer? I know it costs, but it can help you in the near future to get peace.

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    1. I’m in the process of getting a lawyer. Thank you! 💚


  12. What a terrible thing to go through. You are very brave to post about your experiences, I’m sure your story will give other women courage!

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  13. God moves mountains. Some things take more time; He’s got this!

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  14. I am so sorry you are going through this. It is always so hard when you can’t get justice. But sharing your experience will help other talk about it, raise awareness and maybe bring justice to others in the future

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  15. You are strong and beautiful!! Be strong love!

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  16. DOn’t give up on the House of Ruth. As a fellow Marylander, I know the work they do and they do great work! Keep working for your son’s sake.

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    1. The house of Ruth is awesome!


  17. That day will come! Keep on fighting and being strong: if not for yourself, then for your son. There is always a light at the end of the tunnel.

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  18. Totally agree you on this keep fighting until your victory won. We all are with you.

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