But Did You Die Pt2

“This seems to be the most pro-criminal group of legislators I’ve ever seen” – Maryland Governor Larry Hogan

The next Morning after Jhavier my son’s father punched me in the face, and attempt to hit our son and myself with a car I woke up in extreme pain. My body was sore, and my I was emotionally drained. It was Memorial Day 2017 and I did not feel like celebrating. Staying in bed all day was my plan until my phone began to ring over and over again. It was Jhavier calling me because he wanted to pick our son up for the holiday. 

“What is wrong with this guy? Does he not remember punching me in the face last night?” I thought to myself perplexed. I agreed to meet Jhavier at the playground in my apartment complex to do the exchange.  I called 911 and advised them that Jhaiver was at my apartment complex. I advised the police that there was a warrant out for Jhavier’s arrest because he assaulted me the on the pervious day. I called the police early because the day before it took them almost 30 minutes to arrive, and I didn’t want to take any chances with Jhaiver. 

30 minutes later Jhavier called again advising that he was at the playground waiting for me to bring our son. I called 911 and begged them to send a police officer to the scene as soon as possible. I advised them that I didn’t feel safe, and that Jhavier was too unpredictable. The 911 operator advised me that an officer was dispatched and someone should be there soon. In a panic I paced back and forth in my apartment not knowing what to do, or how the day would end. 

Finally 50 minutes after I initially called the police two armed officers one a short black female, and the other a tall middle-aged black male knocked on the door. I opened the door and to my surprise the officers started treating me like a criminal.

“Where is the child” the female officer asked as she began looking around my apartment. I advised her that my son was with my mother and he wasn’t home.

“The father is outside and he has a court order that states he is supposed to have his son for the holiday” the male officer stated. 

“Why does it feel like your questioning me when I called you? I called and advised that he Jhavier has an open warrant for punching me in the face yesterday and trying to him my son and myself with a car. You’re here for me when he punched me in the face. Look at my face” I said as my voice began to crack. I couldn’t hold back the tears anymore I reached my breaking point.   

“How do you know he has a warrant” the male officer asked appearing to be unmoved by my tears or my last statement. 

“We received a call from the male advising that he was supposed to have visitation with his son today, and the mother was being belligerent and preventing him from taking the child” Do you have proof” the woman officer asked. 

I showed her the police report from the night before, and the male officer called to confirm the warrant was in the system. 

“I called twice and you showed up because he called? The law is really just going to let this man harass me until he kills me” I said out loud to myself. 

“If he kills you it will be your fault. You need to protect yourself. Domestic violence laws are a joke in Maryland. Get a restraining order and protect yourself” the male officer said to me coldly. 

A few minutes passed and the officers confirmed Jhavier did in fact have a warrant out for his arrest. The officers came up with a plan to arrest Jhaiver without incident. Their plan was to allow Jhaiver to think he was going to be getting out son. Then they arrested him at the door to my apartment building. The police for some reason brought Jhavier to my apartment building and then arrested him. I spent almost three year hiding and never letting Jhaiver know where I lived only for the police to bring him to my door. 

“I have to move now” is all I could think. 

The officers handcuffed Jhavier, and he looked right up at me. I starred right back at him looking him in the eyes. I didn’t want him to see fear, or to see me upset. He didn’t deserve my tears, or my fear.

As the officer read Jhavier his right Jhavier began to break down and cry. “You’re a black man are you really going to arrest another black man” Jhavier asked the arresting officer. “They pay you to locked down and cage us like animals and you’re okay with being a pawn. A paid slave” Jhavier continued to say to the officer.  The officer never responded as he placed Jhavier in the back seat. 

“Is he seriously playing the race card right now?” I asked myself barely believing Jhavier was tacky enough to even use the race card in that moment. He was being arrested for attempting to kill a “black woman” but he felt as though the officer was a sell out for arresting him. 

That is the moment where I really realized that Jhavier was a narcissus.

Jhavier would be held without bail for 48 hours. His girlfriend would end up texting me and I quote “too bad he knocked those glasses off not a smart move, but he’s not a bad man, and the courts will see that. You want him in jail so bad don’t you little girl.”

After 48 hours Jhaiver was given a bond, and able to bail out jail. He was free no house arrest or anything free. The judge advised him to stay away from me, and to have no contact. I didn’t feel safe knowing that Jhaiver was free and now knew where I lived.  

 Jhavier took an erroneous restraining order out on me claiming I beat him up which was later thrown out. Why the court even let him take that restraining order out on me I’ll never know. It was all lies, and I had to go to court to have it thrown out. Jhaiver was never punished for taking out an erroneous protective order, he wasn’t held in contempt for coming to court and blantly lying.  

Jhavier was charged with second degree assault, and first degree assault which is a felony charge. He pled not guilty and asked for a jury trial. Read part 3 to find out what happens next. 


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31 thoughts on “But Did You Die Pt2

  1. thecoffeemom0617 April 15, 2019 — 3:17 pm

    It is insane to me that it seems like the system is so broken. Seems to me like some people who are a risk should not be out on bail.

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    1. I agree repeat offenders and people who perpetrate violent crimes should not get bail! We don’t need them out and about free causing havoc. Thanks for reading 💚


  2. I would not feel safe either. I would be the one moving far away from him.

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  3. Yikes, how scary. I really hope he goes to jail for a long time. He sounds incredibly unstable.

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  4. Cristina Petrini April 15, 2019 — 6:53 pm

    Your post came at a crucial time for me, a time when perhaps I needed to hear these words.

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  5. Wow what an absolute nightmare to have gone through and for them to plead not guilty and have to go through a trial just it must take so much out of a person.

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    1. Thank you for reading! 💚 there was no trail 🙄 he ends up pleading guilty and getting probation


  6. This is such a crazy story, I am so sorry it happened to you and your son…

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  7. How interesting to have come across your blog, I look forward to reading part 3.

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  8. Ugh. This is just a horrific story. I can’t imagine going through this. Thank you for sharing friend.

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  9. Michael David Oyco April 16, 2019 — 3:48 am

    I like how this design of the blog goes with your writing. Awesome feels really.


  10. successunscrambled April 16, 2019 — 8:40 am

    Oh dear, I’m so sorry to hear that this is still happening in your life. It seems that you need a long term solution to this challenge so that you and your son can be safe.

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  11. I really can’t imagine if I’ll be in that position. I’ll be looking forward for the next part.

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  12. Oh my! That is horrible! The police were truly not helpful at all here. I am sorry that the system is making this so difficult for you and your son. Are you going to move now that the police showed him where you live? Thank you for sharing!

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    1. I did move shortly after! Thanks you 💚


  13. This is so powerful, very dark and sad. I would run.

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  14. I love this so much. My sister says this to her kids all the time and it always cracks me up.

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    1. But did you die? 😂😂😂 this story is so personal and heartbreaking I tried to lighten it up a bit with the title


  15. The law system where you are is really messed up. I am sorry you had to go through this and I do hope that things got better and he left you alone.

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  16. What a truly terrible situation to be in. I do hope you and your son are safe now, and I’m looking forward to reading part 3.

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  17. What a truly terrible situation to be in. I do hope you and your son are safe now, and I look forward to reading part 3.

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  18. I wish everything is going to be fine with you. Sometimes terrible things happen to literally anyone. Hope you’re going to be okay.

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  19. Domestic violence should never be supported or encouraged. One should always report to the authorities.

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  20. I would not feel safe whatsoever, glad there was above involved!

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  21. All I can say is wow there. I feel badly about all of what you had to go through. That’s good they didn’t allow the restraining order he tried to take out to stand. Now a lot of people get them without the other person actually doing anything.

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    1. Exactly people shouldn’t be allowed to just take out erroneous restraining orders. They should be punished. Thank you for reading! 💚


  22. Oh jesus, really? I am so sorry you have to go through something so horrible. The system truly is broken. The fact that a police office would tell you “If he kills you it will be your fault” is the most ridiculous thing ever. I hope you and your son are safe now.

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